We sit around on our "girls’ night" and discuss our experiences, failures, dreams, and expectations over a couple of bottles of wine and Chinese food. But do we know what we really want or what we are looking for in a mate and our relationships? More importantly, are we ready to accept what we ask for.
I will be the first to admit that I am guilty of sitting around with my girls having long conversations about men, relationships and sex. Over many bottles of white Zinfandel, while listening to slow jams all night. What puzzles me is while listening to my close friends talking about how we want a man who will treat us right and please our every need, it dawned on me that none of us stated that we are ready for and able to accept what we cry out for.
So, ladies, let's talk about this. Yes, I will go there and say, "Shut up, listen, and really think for a minute." I say this out of love for you and to you. (Smile)
First, we say we want a man who will treat us right. Correct? Then answer this question for me: have you ever told your man how to treat you right? He may think that he is treating you right ,while this may not be so in your eyes. Girl, you better start talking to your man!
Secondly, we all want a man to satisfy our every need. Right? I think we ALL have experienced what I’m about to say next. What you may need, and what most men assume a woman needs, usually ends up being what he needs. Simply put, he is thinking on a physical level when you are thinking, "Make love to my mind and, baby, it’s on!" Am I right? Dru Hill hit it on the head with their song "Tell Me." Ladies, tell them what YOU want!
OK. So you’ve told your man what you want. Here comes the hard part for some of us. Are you ready to accept what you asked for? Are you ready to live what you have talked about, not to mention dreamed about? As Momma used to say, "Do not ask someone to do something you are not prepared to do yourself," meaning, sistas, love yourself truly and completely and your man will do the same. Think about it.
