The dictionary associates the word “truth” with sincerity and integrity. However, according to what that truth is, it can be much more than that.
This reminds me of the term, “Bears one soul.” When we assume the role of truth deliverer, we leave our souls open for inspection. In relationships, this is unique in every sense of the word.
We all realize and accept that the truth should be forthright in every relationship, but few of us dare to brave those waters totally ungarbed. This is true based on three main factors: criticism, judgment and embarrassment.
These three devils are procreated primarily by societal benefactors. From the cradle, we are force-fed beliefs and ideologies that are narrow-minded and desensitized to the common welfare. We close the door to what our primal desires are to appease the fanfare of decision-makers that are not even part of our social station.
From the first sentence, we judge. And by the time the period marks the end of the statement, we already have deduced what our evaluations are. In relationships, we link our mate’s persona with laying the groundwork for damaging views.
What we fail to consider is "Not the act, but the action." What is meant by this simple phrase? The act of conveyance by far outweighs the deed. However, we often find ourselves embellished in a gossip-like arena, only seeking the dirt, not the sentiment.
My heart goes out to the females for theirs is a turbulent journey, in terms of disclosing the truth. Men have things set up for them to dominate and eradicate. We refuse to believe that our mates were ever touched by man. And if our mates have offspring, then they came about through immaculate conception. Any deviation from that thought process makes the significant other no longer significant, only other.
Although the attributes that drew us toward this person were our visual enjoyment, when males become committed, that visual enjoyment becomes a danger. So, how can males expect for their opposite genders to release, when they have so much work to do themselves. Males force their mates to promote an imagery that is falsified to please because of their own insecurity and immaturity.
Situations like these are set up to fail from the beginning and are thickly laden with suspicion and fault-finding.
Relationships are primarily based on relativity. So, how can you achieve this endearing relativity, if one only receives deception and misdirection?
Of course, males aren’t the only ones at fault in this adventure, but that’s the subject of the next issue.