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The Morning After

I have had many discussions on the topic of relationships.  Their pro's and their con's.  Their victories and defeats.  Elations and sorrow.  having spoken to countless members of both sexes in the hopes of decrypting intentions and sentiments.  I believe the pivotal junction that opens a relationship to its true nature is after sexual relations.

I have found in my travels, that relationships are broken down into two parts.  These parts I call "short term relationship goals" and "Long term relationship goals".  It is the short term relationship goals that have lead me to my convictions, without the short term there can be no long term.

Short term relationship goals are:

Mental attraction and compatibility

Physical attraction and compatibility

The general consensus will never deny either two goals as being building blocks for considering a relationship.   Without these goals or needs, a long term relationship is not considered as an option.  However, my point is the lack of definition applied to the physical aspects.   If we define what a person perceives as physical it would be remised if we did not incorporate sexual inclinations.  Once the issue of sexual compatibility is addressed, both parties enjoy the diminished vulnerability of rejection.  Sex alleviates the stress and subconscious fortification caused by the curiosity.  Sex generates ease and relaxation in a relationship, allowing both parties to further enjoy the luxury of trust.  How often do we find ourselves interested in a person and tell ourselves "Now if they are good in bed, its the icing on the cake".  I think we all have at one point  or another.  It is only when we play to societal directorial thought, do we emit projections rather than ones true light.  In essence, we will project our best sides, in the hopes of greeting our short term relationship goals for satisfaction or rejection.   Once those short term goals are met, we move on to the long term. 

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