Love Relationships 

Love Relationships are probably the most troubling area in our lives.  From my professional experience of working as an on line psychic, 95% of calls have to do with love problems.  90% of callers are women.  So, why intimate relationships seem to cause so much disturbance in our lives?  On this page you will find answers to this question.The answers are not that complicated, but they might be shocking for some people, for they will require some serious reevaluations of your understanding and perception of the word LOVE.All love relationships problems come firstly and fore mostly from total misunderstanding and misinterpreting what Love really is.  We have completely forgot that it is that which is without condition, without limitation, and without need.  We substitute Love with Need and close the doors to the most beautiful, pristine and natural human state - the state of Love.We forgot how to love each other.  In modern world that we have created, loving someone without need is unheard of, loving another unconditionally is rarely practiced, and loving everyone without limitation is actually thought of as "wrong."Human beings have created a lifestyle in which feeling Oneness with everyone all of the time does get them "in trouble."  But the real trouble in our relationships lies in a different field.  The real trouble has actually three names and can be called the three great love-enders.  They are respectfully -1. Neediness
2. Expectation
3. JealousyIt is impossible to truly love another when any of these three is present.  If you are going to be honest with yourself, you will admit that all of those three elements are almost constantly present in our personal relationships.  You are probably wondering by this point if it is possible to solve the problem, and if "yes" - how?  The good news is that it is indeed possible to solve this problem, even though it might take some effort and persistence.The first step in solving any problem would be the understanding that the problem exists.  Love relationships are not an exception.  Take a love compatibility test by answering simple questions.  We will have to take a more closer look at this particular problem one element at a time.Neediness is the most potent love killer there ever was.  Yet most of us do not know the difference between love and need, and so we have confused the two, and continue to do so daily.  Let's examine how need kills all  love relationships.  "Need" is when you imagine that there is something outside of yourself that you do not now have, and that you require in order to be happy.  Because you believe that you need this, you will do almost anything to get it.  You will seek to acquire what you think you require.  Most people acquire what they think they require by trading.  They trade what they already have for what they seek to have.  That is what most of our love relationships are built on.  It is the process we call "love", even though it has nothing to do with it.Understanding the difference between love and need is an important first step in your personal transformation, as well as the huge shift in developing new level of love relationships.  I will not say it is easy to switch from one modality to another, but if you really absord this truth and try to apply in your real life, with your real partner, you will see the amazing changes happening to your love relationships.  But you'll still have to deal with the other two.If you manage to eliminate need from your relationships with each other, you may still have to struggle with expectation.  This is a state in which you have an idea that someone else in your life is to perform in a particular way, is going to show up as who you think they are, or who you think they should be.  That will put an end to your love relationships in a split of a second.Like need, expectation is deadly.  Expectation reduces freedom, and freedom is the essence of Love.  When you love someone, you grant them total freedom to be who they are, for this is the greatest gift you could give them, and love always gives the greatest gift.When you do not require a person to show up as you imagine you need them to be, then you can drop expectation.  Expectation goes out the window.  Then you love them exactly as they are.  That opens another secret to successful love relationships.  You can only receive another's love in the way that you give them yours.  They can love you their way as long as they want.  You can only receive it your way.  You cannot experience what you do not allow others to experience.  If you allow yourself to experience that, you will truly achieve the joy in your love relationships.  All that brings us to the element in this answer: jealousy.Jealousy has become a curse of our days, including our love relationships.  It is literally killing us.  Human beings have been known to kill each other, or themselves because of jealousies.  If you love another person, you tell them that they must love you, and only you.  If they love another person, you become jealous.  Unfortunately, this is not where it begins and ends.  For we are not only jealous of other people, we are jealous of jobs, hobbies, children, and anything that takes the focus of your loved one away from you.  Jealousy takes many forms, it has many faces.  None of them are beautiful.How do we find out way out of it?  We'll have to get rid of an idea that happiness depends on anything outside of yourself, and you will get rid of jealousy.  We'll have to get rid of the thought that love is about what you get in trade for what you give, and we'll get rid of jealousy.  We'll have to get rid of a claim on any other person's time or energy or resources or love, and we'll get of jealousy.Sounds hard to perform?  Yes, it might be not an easy adjustment.  But there is no other way to balance our lives and our love relationships.  The effort is worth trying, because the rewards are bigger and brighter that you can possibly imagine and the benefits are priceless.  Live your life for a new reason.  Understand that its purpose has nothing to do with what you get out of it, and everything to do with what you put into it.  It is true for everything in your life, especially your love relationships.

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